I am an INFJ female dating an INTP male (as I just had him take the Myers-Brigg test last night). This person played a significant role in my life. I guess time will tell if we are strong enough together, after 18 months of a relationship, to endure all the misunderstandings and obstacles that get thrown our way. I've tended to lean towards INFPs, ENTPs, and other INTP guys. 3 Potential Struggles in the INFJ and ISTP Relationship: #1 – Differences In Emotional Expression “Hi guy with dumb ideas. This personality type is more attuned to impersonal systems and technical subjects than intimate topics. Moreover, when INFJs do venture to share their Ni insights or subversive ideas, they often feel that others really don’t understand them, don’t care to hear them, or end up looking at the INFJ as though she were crazy. What you write about us is 100% accurate and awesome. They also like how gentle and considerate the INFJ is in dealing with other people. You can look at the outside and make a conclusion, or peel away to more information and reach a different conclusion. It brings her pleasure to protect them, support them and say something uplifting. INTJ women will have a much harder time in general than their male counterparts. seems like a v nice opportunity for compatibility here, tho I’ve never slept with one (so far, still holding on hope). When an INFP personality type and INFJ personality type get into a relationship, it’s important to consider the role gender dynamics will play. If you discover that you are, in fact, an INTP, then you are in good company! INFJ gets the adventure she always fantasizes about but is too anxious or guilt-ridden or responsible to initiate. The key here is the words “more” and “less”. INTPs will get held accountable for NOT initiating or working on his fantasies. INFJ’s support and encouragement completely fill a gap that’s in desperate need of filling for INTP’s. So, who are the most famous female INTPs? It’s who they are and it makes a lot of things about them great (especially for an aloof INTP). I’m male (INFJ) and female partner (INTP). This means these relationships get super playful when INTP opens up their Fe. When the INFJ is dealing with a bully or is stumped by a technical problem, the ISTP will typically go to great lengths to help, support, or defend the INFJ. ( Log Out /  I wouldn’t think much of it. On more than one occasion, I have heard that the relationship between an INTP and INFJ is called the golden pair. He should be thanking me! For INFJs, merely being around people provides them with pleasurable opportunities to perceive and deepen their understanding of human nature. I Fe’d the shit outta that.”. INTPs NEED this. Their perfectionism and idealism can blind them to what’s good for them or cause them to focus on the ideals of a situation that is very obviously bad for them. If you throw in gender there is even more. INTPs are often characterized as “the inventor” type. After seeing my Infp-Enfj couple videos, you've been asking for this example (Enfj male, Infp female) a lot. Jan 7, 2020 - Explore Maryhan Fahmy's board "Intp female x Intj male" on Pinterest. INTP personalities should learn to be more open with their own feelings. The INTP is one of the rarest types among the 16 Myers-Briggs Personality types. INTP The Engineer. INFJ is one of the 16 personality types recognized by the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI). INFJ women stick to me like shit to a blanket. There’s over 230 match combinations. some of them really seem to want to communicate but don’t do it well and it’s fun and easy to help them thru this. It happens in a way that makes us excited to go try out our new Fe skills. I’m looking forward to reading more of your writing on the pairing . Hell yes. You should write a science FICTION novel about that. hide. We love to teach and we love to learn by watching other people, not by being taught by other people. Create a free website or blog at WordPress.com. If the two are confident in themselves/mature, they will be fine with a more dominant female partner. “wait what? When an infj female dating an infj women hate aswell. ( Log Out /  These are not the easiest relationships to get off the ground, hence the emphasis on maturity and experience. If you throw in gender there is even more. Because of this, INTJ women might be considered butch or unattractive by many men and/or women. However, INTP and INFJ use different types of intuitive mechanisms. Change ), You are commenting using your Google account. While some typologists avoid addressing sex and gender differences, having engaged with both male and female INTPs and INFJs, I feel that sex differences do play a noteworthy role in their presentation and cannot be ignored, especially when it comes to relationships. And if they get off the ground and both partners are committed to nurturing the relationship expect fireworks. Even when the INTP is attempting to express themselves, it doesn’t always make it easy for others to understand. I think any INFJ or INTP who has been in a mature relationship with the other will agree it’s a great pairing. Understanding the INFJ personality type. It doesn’t take much interaction before we’re drawn to each other. Audrey Hepburn is an INFP. The good news is that there are a number of free online INTP tests that can help determine if you are or aren’t an INTP and your true personality type. I’m just as scared as you.”. Below are some lists of INTP women, celebrities, and famous people. We are an INFJ-INTP duo and have written extensively about these types, including authoring one of the most frequently referenced INFJ articles on the internet, our INFJ personality profile, as well as the two best-selling INTP books worldwide. People with an INTP personality type tend to be extremely analytical, objective, and logical in their behavior. discomfiting to find oneself under that penetrating gaze however. While INFJs are similar to INTPs in their distaste for small talk (i.e., too much talk about S matters), the fact that their dominant function, Introverted Intuition (Ni), is a Perceiving function makes them less agenda-driven and less concerned with “efficient” use of time (the Enneagram type Five speaks to INTPs’ greediness with time). I mean it made sense in theory but now I really understand. Couple things that were good/bad: Good - 3. On facebook. Hepburn, never took an MBTI test is what you will discover if you peel away enough. See more ideas about intp female, intp, intj intp. As I’ve explained elsewhere, the promise of psychological wholeness is a likely reason why “opposites attract.”. report. We laugh and joke all the time and have such fun together…..however, it always seems that the end is around the corner …..we’ lol have to sit and see…..? I just found out that I'm actually an INTP female (my biologic gender is male). A pretty accurate representation I found on the internet: Sometimes I write. To be a female INTP is even rarer; only 2% are women. It was very comforting to read that someone else was having the same experience. save. This extreme, all-or-nothing approach to relationships reflects INTPs’ Ti-Fe tug-of-war. In order to find satisfaction in a long-term relationship, INTPs desire a partner who is interesting in regularly joining them in intellectual or philosophical dialogue. Totally in the moment and giddy and feel-good. Share This Page. I will, however, tell her when my feelings are hurt, thus resolving the issue. ( Log Out /  I can so relate to your article. Therein lies the problem, she will often believe that if she acts a specific way, I will respond a specific way, and will not understand why my reaction is at all separate from the one she anticipated. I hope you enjoy this video! If they are lucky enough to meet each other, they tend to have an instant spark because of their shared dominant function: Introverted Intuition. Expect conversations to happen on your couch or in your bed that are worthy of being dictated into a book. We do see things differently; this had led to many misunderstandings, but as we’ve gone on, we’re getting to know each other. Contradictory Traits of the Male INFJ 1. My current and longest standing partner is an INTP male. Namely, because of their inferior Fe, INTPs generally feel they need or want to be in a relationship, but once involved in one, they can end up devaluing their partners or convincing themselves they really don’t need the relationship. ENFJ/INTP is one of those sets that are supposed to get along. Jan 7, 2020 - Explore Maryhan Fahmy's board "Intp female x Intj male" on Pinterest. INTJs are known to be stoic, intellectual, and uninterested in emotion: all traits that are not usually associated with traditional femininity. We don’t always get to pick what function we use in a situation. I can completely relate to everything that you said in your post above. While INTPs seek a partner who can help them understand themselves and advance their theories, INFJs want a partner who is capable of understanding and appreciating their most authentic selves (i.e., understanding and appreciating their Ni and its insights). wow, that’s super cool. We introduce new info in a way that makes shifting these ideals fulfilling . I bet it would be super exciting!! It is important for the INFJ to find … These seclusive and friendly people are complicated themselves, and so can understand and deal with complex ethical issues and with deeply troubled individuals.” – David Keirsey. 100% Upvoted. They love exploring new theories and ideas, which means they’re often responsible for amazing discoveries in their field of choice. Late teens our tertiary function starts getting some air time and we learn our way around our inferior function in our 20s (hopefully). Sometimes it appears as if she lacks any empathy at all, which, every so often, can hurt my feelings. The experience is in another post. INTP will drag her into his adventures, at first maybe reluctantly, but eventually she’ll be laughing her ass off and as time goes on she’ll realize how much she likes the leadership from the INTP in this regard. INFJ’s love learning from people and growing their intuitive and intellectual arsenal, but they particularly like sharing this experience with others and they get very happy when they get to display what they’ve learned to someone(Ni-Ti promotes the learning and Fe-Se promotes the sharing). ISTPs are typically confident in their choices while INTPs may second-guess every decision. Very much like I am supposed to get along with INFJs. But like is true for fire, you can cook with it or you can burn your house down. The chemistry and intellectual spark make this an unfortunate inevitable outcome. You are my favorite teacher and my favorite lover in a single person. INFJs now using fire to make herself a juicy ribeye…medium rare…not to burn down the new satin curtains in the living room. Some of them are very specific to the male gender, while others may be experienced by female INFJs to varying degrees as well. infj chick here, will report the same experience with intps: they are good at seeing thru to us. Nor is it the case that INTPs have trouble “falling in love.” Especially in their youth, INTPs can be easily smitten, especially by EF types. Our functional stacks are very complimentary. Sure, INFJs are introverts and need time to themselves, but they are not as fiercely independent as INTPs are wont to be. We encourage each other’s strengths in ways that are fun and engaging. This is why INTPs are particularly prone to relational issues associated with narcissism. It requires much grace and compassion on my part for him not being able to communicate his feelings, as I can always pour my heart and soul out to him. We learn our primary function early and are pretty proficient with it by the end of childhood. Seriously, growth and development are about those later functions and it’s one of the primary reasons INFJ and INTP do so well together. Lets look at the female male types separately: Women Types: Woman- Caregiver, Woman- Mother (ESFJ, ISFP,ESTJ, ISTP) This kind of woman have a tendency to smother her male partner. Over the last couple of years, I’ve received numerous requests for a post about INFJ and INTJ relationships. Or we’re just retarded in general with not using Fe at all. I think typically they tell us infjs that we should date entps or estps or even enfps but I find that extps tend to be rather (compensatorily) narcissistic while enfps are too scattered to hold my interest. We pick up the second one as children and start honing that. I can completely relate to everything that you said in your post above. Albert Einstein is an example of a famous INTP. 's bio here. . “You think this isn’t true for me? Maybe even a ratio of 3:1 or 4:1 or more. As discussed in my post on INTP relationships, INTPs (especially INTP males) are prone to devaluing their mates if they don’t stimulate the INTP’s mind. That’s a realm seldom trekked due to intense precautious safety measures—being highly flammable, it may be best to maintain some distance. When INFJ comes up to us and is like “dude, I just learned the shit out of this. if you aren’t a female INTP but know of couples or people attracted to them please answer as well. 45 comments. This mutual weakness bolstering works because personal growth is one of the biggest values for an INFJ and an INTP. If we are lucky, by the time we are 30, we at least know how to swing our fourth function and hit something. Like INTPs, they seek a companion who can convene with them in the world of abstractions and ideas, particularly those related to people and human nature. They may get stuck there, and forget to think about the feelings and emotional needs of … New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. Over the last couple of years, I’ve received numerous requests for a post about INFJ and INTJ relationships. The J and P balance each other. You want to develop a machine that does what? Despite their general enjoyment of people and friendships, INFJs, can struggle when it comes to finding a worthy and compatible partner. INFJ females will be emotionally open and warm and may be particularly in tune with the emotions of others. Oftentimes in INTP male – INFJ female relationships, one will become romantically interested in the other. Don't dismiss that the emotions and excitement of an EFSJ, if done right, can be a wild thrill ride for INTP's. You are so creative. Watchers: ... Oh, and I don’t think an INFJ dude could handle an INTP female INFJ dudes should stick with less dominant types. Rather, they want to feel that, in any given moment, there is potential for deepening their philosophical or psychological understanding through engagement with their partner. On the surface, the INFJ and INTP personality types may look very different. Integrity is their watchword and they will be excellent listeners, supportive and with a strong desire to ‘do the right thing’ often the catalyst for making things better. She is attracted to weak but intelligent men that can submit to her in everyday life. Her and I are still good friends and I’m very fond of her. Hence, INTP and INFJ share unique characteristics. There’s the infamous INFJ door slam, and then there’s the INTP slow fade. I’ve been in a longer relationship with another INFJ, and that one in particular, is still my favorite relationship I’ve ever had, by a good margin. I have long-standing relationships with male pen-pals and friends where the basis of our relationship is almost entirely the discussion of ideas, but I’ve never met a female interested in the same. These aren’t necessarily negative traits. I believe the INTP (fem) & INTJ (male) is the best match because the societal pressures of women to be “emotional” and men to be “clinical” are apparent. She is attracted to weak but intelligent men that can submit to her in everyday life. It was a short lived relationship, roughly 6 months. For me it’s almost a spiritual experience in that the connection we have brings us so close when we make love. He founded Personality Junkie® in 2009 which has since grown to see over three million annual visitors. There’s over 230 match combinations. It appears that in the case of both INTP and INTJ, opposites do not attract so much. But the qualities that drew them to an INFJ in the first place can eventually get on their nerves. In many circles the INTP male/INFJ female match is referred to as The Golden Pair, the single most compatible and passionate relationship match that could occur when considering relationships from an MBTI perspective. In the same sense, ISTPs are protective of the more tangible needs of the INFJ. Sure, others can appreciate the INFJ’s warmth and people-skills, but it is Ni, not Fe, that is the core of the INFJ’s identity. This is so accurate it hurts. The INTP female will be less nurturing, caring, empathetic, more ruthless and careless, dirtier and less well kept than her female partner. They can get caught there, focusing so much on people’s feelings that they forget to look at the cold, hard facts. It’s my ideal! EF types outwardly embody INTPs’ inferior function, which the INTPs’ subconscious sees as a quick route to psychological wholeness. However, INTP and INFJ use different types of intuitive mechanisms. That is not to say, of course, that this series will not have some degree of relevance for INTP females or INFJ males. INTP female here, married to an ESFJ male. Date who you like and figure out how to make it work with care and empathy for your partner…even if you’re the INTP. As long as our weaknesses are kept in check things are pretty dope. Two of my closest friends are INFJs and the friendships have very similar dynamics to the romances. I always hear that the male INTP and female INFJ are extremely compatible but what about a female INTP and male INFJ relationship? They're very creative, individualistic and like a lot of alone time. INTP children are easy to spot. I think I am also an INFJ and a male one at that. INTP and INFJ are both creative types. If one person is psychic about things and people (INFJ Introverted Intuition or Ni) and the other is psychic about systems (INTP Extroverted Intuition or Ne), basically, together we are psychic about…like EVERYTHING. In the end, INFJs seek a partner who validates their worth and values their ideas, one who truly understands and appreciates their inner world. This is an incredibly rewarding relationship, and like the saying goes, nothing worth having comes easy – it is also riddled with a plethora of challenges, as can be seen above. The INTP is attracted to INFJs because of their compassion and spontaneity. INTP (“The Logician”) In the world of personality theory, the INTP and INFJ pairing has been nicknamed “The Golden Pair” because these two types can be highly compatible. INTP and INFJ use extroverted and Introverted Intuition respectively. INTPs sind ruhig, zurückhaltend und nachdenklich. ESFJs will appreciate it if an INTP offers intentional time and works on being a little more organized. These attractions are hard to shake once they get off the ground. Because they’re so reserved, INTPs may have few friends. INFJ females can sometimes struggle with feeling a deep love for everyone around them, but also feeling a desire to alienate themselves from those people. INFP Male and INFJ Female: 4 Possible Relationship Scenarios For the first time in her life, the INFJ girl might feel that someone actually understands her. This thread is archived. To them, it’s sloppy to let feelings override logic. In this series of posts, we will explore some of the dynamics, challenges, and rewards of INFJ-INTP relationships. If I were a male INTP - Exxx females would be even more annoying due to the higher pitch in voice; socialized xSxx females could be more useful at doing chores and such within the home, but I would become bored with her; xxFx females would have more room for excuses for inordinately ridiculous behavior; xxxJ females would covertly strive to enforce their so-called rules. You could rank all these matches worst to best…at the bottom of the list you’ll have XXXPs matched with XXXPs of similar type. INFJ And INTP Both Tend To Be Night Owls Although, INFJs are more disposed to following more structured lifestyles than the INTP, they nonetheless share with them, a taste for the night life. The gradual distancing is to protect ourselves from any additional damage right down to our most vulnerable parts: in the feels. also, and maybe this is against type, but I am totally down for specious mock-debates and banter and these guys will get into it too seeing it quite correctly as a pointless intellectual exercise devised for our combined amusement. INFJ females are vigorously aware of their incredibly rich emotional world. INTP’s Fe is childlike since we picked it up last. We also love to learn and grow. I am an INFJ male and my partner is an INTP female. Change ), This is a text widget. Do you think it would be possible for a female INTP with highly developed Fe to mistype as an INFJ. An INFJ who hasn’t learned to shift their ideals with new philosophies and information can have a pretty shitty time. Sometimes dubbed “the golden pair,” many have noted the potential for great compatibility and camaraderie in INTP-INFJ relationships. Since this personality type tends to highly rely on independence and needs a personal space, starting a family can be a great challenge for an INTP female. INTP males are horrendously unaware of their emotions. An INFJ girl tends to have interests and hobbies that are not typical of other women. This is also due to feminine social training; women are often tasked with emotionally helping others, particularly family members or romantic partners. Just like I constantly crush on INFJs (and NJs in general), INFJs often find themselves crushing on INTPs (and NPs in general). He’s just being his usual, caring INFP self. We work together but don’t live together (unrelated reasons). https://introvertdear.com/news/highly-compatible-romantic-matches-for-the-infj Why do the two different personality types get along so well? They are also super deep because the opposite is happening with Introverted Thinking (Ti) . Women make up approximately two percent of all INTPs, compared to only one percent of men. INTP’s are perfect matches for this. Here, INFJ’s excellent Fe helps develop our own and it happens in a way that makes sense for us. INFJ-INTP The Golden Pair. They can seem emotionally distant from their parents at times. This is because our strong Ti bolsters INFJ’s milder Ti, but unlike with other matches, the way it happens is engaging. It’s just put in our hands and then we are shoved into battle. Without this key ingredient, INTPs may struggle to find reasons to value or want to spend time with their partners. People with INTP and ISTP personality types tend to share many traits and behaviors. they’ll also do it without boring the shit out of me, frequently with amusing anecdotes or the appropriately hyperbolically moronic retort. there are definitely layers to research. The ENTP can seem unmotivated or even lazy to the hard-working INFJ, while the ENTP can see their INFJ partner as uptight, restrictive and just no fun. The INFJ female is an intense, passionate woman. Because an Ti-Ne and Ni-Ti interaction is like a mad tea party with Yoda, Rumi, Einstein and Mozart, except it’s not tea in the cups it’s fucking whiskey. That’s why an INTP female will never tolerate possessive behaviors in a relationship.She’d better be alone than with a man who tells her what to do or where to or not to go. INFJs are super hard on themselves, wanting to reach their best potential, in their work, in their development, in their parenting, in EVERYTHING. People might misunderstand this behavior, and make the wrong assumptions about the INFJ female in their life. Here are some pros and cons of dating us INTP … Discussion in 'Relationships and Sociology' started by INFJ1, Jan 28, 2018. Please research better next time and come up with an accurate INFJ female celebrity/character. The learning and growth I went through when I dated my ex-INFJ was one of the best experiences I’ve had. Edit them in the Widget section of the. INFJs and INTPs in particular, are really into people and their authenticity so we tend to appreciate this wholeness more than other types (this is a consequence of shared Fe). Sexual relations between us are very good. On sex: it was the first time I’d understood the hooplah about emotional connections and sex. I speak more with my emotions and she speaks more with logical thought, and it, every so often, will confuse her as to why I either feel or don’t feel a certain way. We both share extraverted feeling (Fe) but INFJ is much more adept at it then INTP. Attraction occurs often with NJs and NPs because of the Ni-Ne interaction. INTP’s are great at keeping these ideals from blinding the INFJ. If they can manage to find a partner whose insights complement and deepen their own, INTPs can find ample reason to continue loving and cherishing their mates.